Hey friends. Sarah Lane, here. I’m here to tell you that YOU are magnificent, radiant, and enough. You were put on this planet for a reason and you can make an impact. How do I know this? Through my own journey of healing and spiritual awakening. Instead of carrying on about all of the trainings I’ve done, coaching I’ve received, or things I’ve learned, I’m just going to share my heart with you. Because this is heart-centered work.
I am a recovering people pleaser. I was always afraid of rocking the boat, speaking my truth, or saying no – in fear of losing the approval of others. It was only when I learned to love and approve of myself that I realized people-pleasing isn’t actually serving anyone. I learned to soothe my inner child who felt like she had to keep it all together during transitional times through divorce and blended family dynamics. I learned to tap into the infinite wisdom of my heart and womb to set healthy, loving boundaries for myself and speak my truth.
Throughout my teens and college years, I fell in love with the party. I am a naturally sociable person, and the numbing effect of alcohol was a perfect storm to help me dissociate with my emotions. I was always looking for deeper connections though. Looking for more, wanting more out of life, feeling lost and not really sure what I wanted – but I knew that what I was doing wasn’t “it”.
I still love parties and people, but now I make choices that are aligned with my health and well-being. You can always catch me starting the dance party! In fact, I turned my love for the dance floor into a weekly self-care practice through Ecstatic Dance, which is a sober, heart-centered healing space that allows me to look at how I interact with other humans and myself on a whole different level.
Through yoga teacher training, I reconnected to my body, mind, and soul – I was starting to come home to myself. The yogic path gave me tools and steps to achieve physical and mental well-being through right diet, exercise, and meditation. I learned to tune in and listen to my body and give my body what it really needed. And that was just the beginning.
My past relationships were a mirror for me – by choosing people who I perceived as “emotionally unavailable” I realized I, too, was not being as emotionally available to myself or others and therefore was unconsciously blocking myself from receiving the level of depth and intimacy that I was craving. I also learned that I was unconsciously attracting partners who had similar qualities as my father, whos love, attention, and approval I craved as a child and never received. It was only until I gave all of that attention, approval, and intimacy to MYSELF and my inner child – that I truly found peace and self-love.
As children, we’re often told to “stop crying” or “calm down”, subconsciously taking on the belief that our emotions were not acceptable. But we’re human – and one of our greatest gifts as a human species is to feel our emotions. We must feel in order to heal. When I started on this healing journey, I was feeling A LOT – it felt like things actually had to get WORSE before they got BETTER. I found myself crying for multiple days at a time – or crying at something as simple as seeing a cute dog on the sidewalk (c’mon ladies, we’ve all been there!)
When I processed these emotions with the help of my spiritual coaches and healers, they helped me realize that all of the tears and heaviness were a result of finally allowing my inner child the space to feel all that she needed to feel and express that she didn’t know how (or didn’t get a chance to) express at the time.
Much like yours, I presume, my path hasn’t been easy; there’s been heartbreak, loss of friends, difficult change, lots of tears, etc. – but as Eckhart Tolle says, “Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”
What changes are you going to make for yourself? What do you want to make space for in your life? Schedule a 1:1 conversation with me to tell me about it. I truly want to know!
With so much love and gratitude,
What People Say
“My first session with Sarah was my first session with a life coach, and Sarah did not disappoint! She has a warm, centered, and calm energy that allowed space for me to be vulnerable and open. She asked poignant questions that encouraged me to think critically and contemplate my current challenges. The outcome of our discussion provided me with actionable tasks that I could use to help myself. She is unpretentious, very insightful, and clear in her suggestions for navigating barriers. Sometimes, we need a guide to help nudge us in the right direction. Sarah is exactly that guide! I highly recommend her services.”
– Colleen S.
“Sarah, I can’t even begin to thank you…I really don’t think I’d be in the space that I am and have a different way of looking at things if it wasn’t for you. Thank you so much for being a part of this crazy, vulnerable journey with me and allowing me to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I am doing this deep work and I do believe that I am going to be able to find clarity and get back to a full me. I want to be able to have full autonomy of myself, know myself, and be comfortable with myself and with my choices…I honestly couldn’t have done this without you.”
– Denise S.
“It is easy for me to think about other people, however I have always had issues with taking care of and loving myself. Limiting beliefs and being a people pleaser kept me from achieving some of the goals I set out for myself. As a result of working with Sarah, we identified limiting beliefs and turned them into affirmations as well as discussing the root of being a people pleaser and perfectionist. Sarah is a kind soul, very welcoming, knowledgeable and patient. You can tell she has experience in her field of expertise and loves what she does. Her combination of breath work, meditation and teaching is beyond helpful and truly unique. While teaching in a group setting, Sarah was well aware of our individual needs and made us feel comfortable to check in with her whenever we needed to. She was very supportive and came up with ideas for me specifically on how to deal with certain emotions that may not apply to others.”
– Vanessa E.